Brand new year means time for fresh start

By Norma Shull Smith

By the time you read this article it will be a brand-new year. We as a society look upon a new year as an opportunity for a fresh new start. We are full of goals, resolutions and hope. As I write this ahead of time it is the week before Christmas and the New Year has yet to take place. I am still very much in the grieving process and my emotions are raw.
I dread closing out 2017, because my soul mate in life was here for almost 8 full months of it. I dread starting 2018 without him; my mind just can’t comprehend my future because we were always together; 53 years plus our dating time.
Even though society beacons us to move on and sometimes gets tired of hearing us talk about our losses, it is difficult to close the door on our past. Anyone who has and or are currently dealing with loss, naturally want to keep our loved ones and things we have so enjoyed in the forefront of our lives.
Sometimes life is like a dead car battery that needs a jump start, or better yet, a brand-new battery to assure us our car will get us to our destination.
The Scripture is so full of verses to keep our batteries charged as we approach 2018. Isaiah 43:18-19 tells us to Forget the former things, and not to dwell on the past. That doesn’t mean we forget our loved ones or our precious memories, but it is giving us direction as it says, “See, I am doing a new thing! And later in verse 19 says I am making a way in the wilderness (are you in a wilderness period?)
In Philippians 3:13-14, the Apostle reminds us to forget what is behind and strain, (strain means it won’t be easy) toward what is ahead.
It goes on to say I press on toward the goal……… Pressing on also indicates that we have to be diligent and persistent to be open to what is ahead. Both of these passages are awesome reminders that God can’t move us in the forward direction if we are constantly looking behind. We have to be willing to allow God to open new doors.
Don’t think for a minute that this means we can’t take our memories through the new door and keep them with us, because Jesus Himself grieved the death of John the Baptist and Lazarus. Revelation 21:4-5 says, “Then He (Jesus) Who sat on the throne said, “Behold, I make ALL THINGS NEW!”
My husband had to close the door on his earthly life and now he has experienced something brand-new! God doesn’t want us to go into denial, for grief is real. Rather He wants us to move through grief. When we refuse to move through, we open doors to depression, fear, worry, anger and bitterness.

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