Eternity Matters: EXPECTATIONS

By Norma Shull Smith

Life is full of expectations from not only ourselves, but from others. If we aren’t careful how we deal with this word, we can be subject to disappointment, bitterness, loss of respect for another, and even be put into depression.
We live in a day that is filled to the brim with expectations. It can side-swipe us from all sides! From being overloaded at work, right down to where we should be in our comfort zone at home. It is like our lives live day to day on high alert!
Have you ever noticed that expectations and time frames seem to go hand in hand? We are a people who fill our lives with deadlines and at the same time often put deadline demands on others. We ourselves put great demand on our own being, as we too demand and want what may not be in our best interest. It is good to have expectations, as long as we can keep them in control and not let them rule our life.
There are many forms of expectation. Expectation demands performance. I love to watch the girls’ division of Olympic Gymnastics and marvel at their agility, strength and performance, but I know that behind the scene, those girls have great demands and expectations riding on their backs. They have trained daily for hours upon hours and in many cases, have to be away from family for long periods of time. We see the disappointment and even at times tears, when they don’t reach their long-awaited expectation of the gold. We can certainly appreciate such disappointment and being human, our minds tell us that we have failed the trainer, failed self, and let our country down. They have not done any of that, but when we build our expectations so high and others have banked on us, it is natural to have such feelings.
Expectation is the yearning and desire for something to come!! It is a strong belief that something will happen that will be for our benefit and this is how the Lord desires our hearts to feel toward Him! Yet when expectation becomes a demand on others or on ourselves to the point that it isn’t healthy, the spirit of expectation can work against a person.
Why all this chatter about expectations? To encourage you that expectations can be good, if used properly. Do not put unrealistic goals on our own being. Keep reality in balance. Don’t put others on pedestals, because all humans can let us down. Keep expectations and hopes in line with what is eternal!

Recommended readings
“There I will give her vineyards and make the Valley of Achor [troubling] to be for her a door of hope and expectation. And she shall sing there and respond as in the days of her youth and as at the time when she came up out of the land of Egypt.” Hosea 2:15
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

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